Is it giving toxic positivity or romanticizing your life?
Why hyping up tiny moments of good is a powerful coping tool
Hey there!
DD HQ here. Serious q: Is #romanticizingyourlife good for you…or filled with toxic positivity?
If you're not tapped into the Romanticize your Life trend (or more interestingly, read this recent New York Times article), let us explain. Over the past year millions of people have shared a peek into seemingly mediocre moments in their lives - like washing dishes - but instead of being embarrassed by the non-aesthetic nature of it, they're hyping those tiny moments of good up.
Everything from grinding coffee beans to making homemade soap is cool. Long gone are the days when we needed to escape to Italy in order to live it up (thankfully).
Even though it may seem silly, or even like the antithesis of genuine reflection, we're really into this practice at DD. Because, romanticizing the tiny, everyday moments in life is even deeper than just being in the present moment.
It's actively sending your brain on a positive upward spiral.
Hear us out: Savoring, or in non-psychological research terms 😅, hyping up the tiniest moments of good, is an advanced coping mechanism that helps us experience gratitude, increase self-efficacy (aka confidence) + flood our brains with feel-good neurotransmitters.
This isn't just toxic positivity and making stuff better than it actually is. According to research, savoring does more than make us feel good in the right now; it acts as insurance against future tough moments.
Essentially, it's the next step of daydreaming + being in the flow: by putting those imagination techniques into action, our brain can conjure up those memories when we need them.
TBH - we would have never thought that a Tiktok trend could be so powerful. But, savoring, and then sharing those moments with others prolongs how good we feel.
So, hype up the tiniest good moment in your day - and then, share a picture with a friend (or us @ DDHQ!) to activate your naturally creative brain 🛸
Katina + Dupi
and the entire team @ DD HQ
An idea to noodle on 💭
Activate your creative 🧠 by savoring
THINK ON THIS: Savoring is like the cousin of being in the ‘flow’. It's actively being in the present moment - but unlike flow, it doesn't need to be challenging. It could be noticing a beautiful flower on your afternoon coffee break, or the way the sun hits your desk. Experiment with it: when you hype up the smallest moment - how does it make you feel?
…MAYBE NOT THAT: The term ‘romanticizing’ often means that you're making something better than it actually is. But…why is that a bad thing? Our brains have immense power to shape our perception of situations - and use we can use it to cultivate resilience + cope with the not-so-great stuff.
Inside our brains at DD HQ 🧠
Is it a lack of motivation or shift in values? We love this piece on what's often behind feeling unproductive @ work. A new study shows that pairing low-attention + high-attention activities helps wake up your creative brain. The power of altered states (hint: flow is one of them). Ready for an imaginary journey? Hang out with Joan Didion. New research shows that free time shifts our relationship with creativity. Speaking of free time: are we addicted to stuff that doesn't allow us to create?
Ideas from the DD Crew 🛸
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Learn more about savoring from our co-founder, Katina. DD is coming to Tiktok soon (follow along at @heyitsdaydreamers for when we launch). For now, listen to Katina’s take on why romanticizing your life isn’t just a trend.
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